7 Ways Celibacy Can Help You Grow Spiritually and Attract Better Relationships

We have all gotten to a point in our romantic life where enough is enough. We keep on attracting the same type of person, and we finally realise that we are the common denominator in them all. 

For some people, this is the catalyst to do some deeper self reflection, inner healing, to start nurturing a spiritual relationship with themselves or to focus on their goals. 

One of the ways that can be super helpful to achieve a better relationship with yourself and others, is to begin a period of conscious celibacy. 

The difference between practicing celibacy with a purpose for spiritual growth vs someone who just isn’t having sex because they haven’t found anyone they want to be with or have sex with is the fact that it’s intentional, for a purpose and isn't forced.

So let's talk about SEX...

SEX AND SEXUAL ENERGY 

Sex and sexual energy are one of the most healing and transformative tools on the planet, but also can be one of the most destructive if misused with the wrong intentions. 

When you have sex with another, you are sharing sexual energy and there is an exchange happening on an energetic and emotional level. 

If you are being intimate with someone who is not in alignment with you, or doesn’t have the same intentions. Then you can absorb each other's energy, emotions, beliefs, thoughts and negative traits through DNA. 

Meaning that your emotional, mental, energetic, spiritual and even physical state can be impacted and altered by the people you chose to sleep with. 

Choosing to take a period of intentional celibacy can have profound effects on your wellbeing if you want to heal, clear your ex lovers and focus on your spiritual growth. 

Here are 7 ways it can help you to grow spiritually, become more self aware and attract better relationships into your life: 

2. YOU STOP GIVING YOUR POWER AWAY 

Every time you have sex with someone who isn’t aligned to your frequency, you are giving some of your energy and power away. 

As a woman, your womb is a portal and receives energy from your partner, which can create a dumping ground for their stress and subconscious blocks through misaligned encounters. 

As a man, you lose the most of your energy when you ejaculate. Your testosterone, oxytocin, and dopamine drops into a valley for 3-4 days and gradually rises over 17 days. Having frequent ejaculations could leave you in a depletion, constantly searching for that next hit. 

You also create energetic cords and ties whenever you have sex with someone. Some of those are corded to energy vampires who continue to feed off your life force energy long after you have stopped dating. It’s important to cut the energy ties after each relationship so you can call back all of your energy and connect to who you are again, so you aren't left feeling tired and too drained to reach your fullest potential in life. 

2. IT GIVES YOU MORE MENTAL FOCUS AND CLARITY

Not having sex with someone frees up your focus and gives you clarity. 

Not being energetically bonded to someone by sexual energy cords or hooks, allows you to come back into a place of balance in your own energy, with your own thoughts and feelings instead of being blurred with the colour of someone else’s still in your field which could lead to confusion, exhaustion and not feeling like yourself. 

Also, when you have sex, sometimes you can’t help but constantly think about them which can cloud your judgment and inhibit logical and clear thinking. 

Sex is a complicated act that actually affects your emotional state, brain chemistry and hormones. 

When a woman orgasms, you release a cocktail of chemicals like oxytocin (also known as the love & long term bonding hormone), dopamine and vasopressin, which doesn’t leave your system for 21 days.

So if you're wondering why you can't stop thinking about them after boom boom room, then this could be why!

When you take a period of celibacy you are able to realign your emotions, brain chemistry and hormone levels to regain your mental and emotional clarity. Being able to come back to a place of center in yourself can help you in all areas of your life. 

3. SELF AWARENESS & DISCIPLINE 

When you aren’t clouded by the thoughts of sex, the chemical addition of the hormones released or taking on or giving away your energy, you are able to practice self discipline and become more self aware.

When you can’t control your mind or body, you don’t have proper control over making more self aware decisions. 

Many people realise how controlled they have been by their sexual desires or need for instant gratification or validation they received from sex. By taking this away, you are able to start looking at your choices from a new less clouded lens. 

It also forces you to be alone and not distracted by someone else. Therefore allowing you the space and time to find yourself, understand what you need in your life, what makes you happy and the mental capacity to focus on other goals and dreams in your life. 

4. YOU CAN  BUILD A MORE MEANINGFUL FOUNDATION IN YOUR NEXT RELATIONSHIP 

Many new relationships don’t last because you rush into having sex before even knowing a person. They say it takes 3 months before someone’s mask starts to fall, but for many people it’s too late and they already believe to be in love. 

Having sex too early in a new connection can cloud your perception of your new partner because of oxytocin (the love hormone) that’s released in the brain. 

Taking sex off the table for the first few months of a relationship, allows you time to get to know who someone really is before getting your energy and emotions entangled with someone you maybe shouldn’t have. 

And if someone isn’t willing to wait until you have physical intimacy, then you have to ask yourself if that is the type of person you really want to be with anyway?

5. PROMOTES POSITIVE SELF-ESTEEM AND SELF-CARE

Sex can complicate EVERYTHING. As you now know, your well-being can be severely impacted by the people you chose to have sex with. 

By taking time away from these types of connections it can help you to focus back on the relationship with yourself. 

You may even realise that you measured your sense of self worth on seeking external connection, attention or validation from sex; and that may be something you want to begin healing during this time of celibacy. 

Instead of looking for your needs to be met from those “undeserving” of you. Start to focus on how you can begin meeting those for yourself. 

Start to ask yourself in every moment and every decision - “what’s the most self loving thing I could do for myself" and follow those intuitive nudges from your soul.

The more you practice to source your love from within, the easier your frequency will rise and you will be able to attract partners that are worthy of your love, because you believe you are worthy of love. 

6. BETTER BOUNDARIES AND DISCERNMENT 

The longer you are celibate and doing your inner work to understand yourself at a deeper level.  

The more you begin to know what your own energy feels like and how good it feels to be in your own energy focusing on your needs. 

The stronger your boundaries become and the more discerning you are about who you let into your space or energy. 

Your sense of self and intuition can become heightened and you become much better at discerning whose energies are not in alignment with you. 

To the point where even the  thought of being intimate with someone that’s not in alignment with you will make you feel sick. 

This is a superpower in helping you to understand the people that should and shouldn’t be allowed in your life. Never mind your body, heart and soul. 

7. SOLO SEX FOR SELF LOVE AND MANIFESTING 

Many people chose to experience their celibacy journey having no sexual experiences of any kind (including masturbation) and having no partnered sex.

But there are those that have chosen to have no partnered sex, but have turned masturbation into a spiritual self pleasure practice. 

As women, masturbation can act as a tool that can be used for self love, spiritual enlightenment and manifestation. 

Shifting your mindset from using self pleasure as a way to get a quick fix, a hit of dopamine, to resolve a sexual urge or as a distraction which many people currently use it for into something intentional can evoke a deeper sense of self love.

By slowing down, setting and intention, using your breath to become present, pleasure mapping your body to heighten your sensations, and mastering your sexual energy.  You can transform your solo quickie into a mindful masturbation and manifestation session. 

Your sexual energy is creative life force energy.  When you learn to harness that force with intention, you can use your orgasm to heal and manifest your goals, desires and wishes into reality. 

CONCLUSION: SPIRITUAL BENEFITS OF CELIBACY 

Conscious celibacy isn’t going to be for everyone but the benefits of taking a period for your personal growth, spiritual evolution and wellbeing can be one of the most profound opportunities for healing and self love. 

Clearing your energy and understanding who you are at a deeper level can help you to have better boundaries, go after your goals and dreams, and manifest a life you love. 

If you are looking to go on a deep journey of spiritual self exploration, desire to attract soulmate relationships and become more self empowered, then you can work with me in my personalized spiritual soulmate or intuitive awareness coaching programs. 

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