10 Ways Your Past Lives Affect Your Present Relationships

When you incarnate into your current life, you have already had many other lifetimes and you can often carry energy from your previous lives into your current incarnation. 

This can happen due to lessons that weren’t learned, situations or trauma that weren’t forgiven, understood or resolved. They could be from karmic debts that need to be paid, or oaths, agreements, promises, or vows you made that have been brought forward to be healed.

These “energies” can show up in your current life by creating blockages in certain areas of your life. They can show up through your emotions, beliefs, fears, phobias, repeating patterns, dynamics, behaviours and in your RELATIONSHIPS. 

Many of the people in your life today were past life connections that have chosen to reincarnate with you in order to play out a pattern, or in order to learn, grow and evolve. 

This may be through love, compassion and support, but they may also be here to catalyze you through pain, or hurt.

So, If you are reading this then you may be experiencing some challenges in your current relationships and want to understand if your past lives could be to blame.

Let’s find out ……

Here are 10 Signs your Past Lives could be impacting your current connections. 

1. You have Betrayal, Abandonment, Trust Issues 

Do you struggle to trust people, or fear they will betray or leave you? As much as you want to believe in them, for some reason you just can’t!

You may feel this about every relationship in your life or about a particular friend or romantic partner. Feeling this way towards the relationships in your life can cause a whole range of issues in your connections. Preventing you from never being fully happy, committed or letting your guard down, fearing that they may somehow hurt you or abandon you.

A past life cause could be that you were in fact abandoned, cheated on, or mistreated in another lifetime. Or you may have cared for someone but somehow ended up hurting them, creating an energetic imprint or belief that you have carried over creating trust issues in your current life.

2. You Have an Instant Aversion Towards Someone

This dynamic can often show up in a work setting, with a colleague or a boss, but it can also show up in families and in friendships in your current life. Sometimes there is no apparent reason for your instant aversion and dislike towards someone, but it dominates your relationship with them. Even  seemingly trivial events seem to trigger you to have big overreactions towards them and you often feel tense and uncomfortable in their presence.

Past life causes could be that they (as a soul in another body) caused you serious harm or pain in a past life, creating unresolved feelings of hurt or anger carried over that you still feel towards them now. These soul contracts have continued to play out in your current life, until they are explored, healed, cleared and the lesson is learned.

3. They Have an Instant Aversion To You. 

Do you have someone in your life that is aggressive, rude or intolerant towards you for no apparent reason? You don't feel the same back or understand why they act like this towards you?

Past life causes could be that you caused them past pain unknowingly or intentionally, or potentially killed or hurt someone close to them in a previous incarnation.

I know it can be a challenge for you to think of yourself intentionally hurting or even killing someone in a past life, but you have to remember that as a soul you have come to experience the whole human condition - the bad, the good and ugly. The horrible things that someone may have done to you in one life, more than likely you did to them in another life.

Our soul often agrees to have a less favorable, challenging or painful lifetimes. Lifetimes where they acted poorly, hurt and killed others in order to learn the lessons they wanted to in order to evolve, in order to understand the yin and yang of life.

4. There is Competition and Tension in Your Relationship

This dynamic can often come up with work colleagues, siblings or even romantic partners. Have you ever experienced a relationship where you can't relax around them, and one or the both of you have to constantly have to score points? It’s not enough for you to succeed, the other must also fail. 

Past Life Cause could be that scores from the past remain and have to be settled. You may have been past life competitors, possibly even to death or financial ruin.

This resonance of energy has continued into this life creating the extreme competition between you both in this life.

Exploring a past life with this current person can help you clear the karma, heal the connection and choose forgiveness.

Many times if we choose revenge or to repeat the same dynamic as we once did, we aren't learning the lesson that is here for us to grow and evolve as a soul. Often leading you to repeat the same lessons over and over again until you do.

5. You have Low Self Esteem, Anxiety, Depression or Negative Thinking or Self-Talk

Either of these mental or emotional imbalances can seriously impact your relationships. They can cause you to avoid or not engage with having relationships. You could experience panic attacks, social anxiety or attract people who don’t see your worth or treat you poorly. All of which prevent you from participating in the richness of life and the power of connection.

Past life causes that have created negative thought patterns in this life, could be having created a belief that positive circumstances create negative outcomes. Like being married in a past life (a seemingly positive circumstance), only to be trapped in an abusive marriage you couldn't get out of (negative outcome) - which causes you to (in this life) always think the worst, even when things are going well.

If you have anxiety (in this life), it could be that you create a story that negative events cause even worse outcomes. A Past life cause could be going into bankruptcy, may have led to death or starvation of you or your family. So a trigger in this life when money is short may lead you into a serious spiral of anxiety or panic. 

If you have depression or negative self-talk in this life, a past life cause may be that you experienced many lifetimes as an “inferior” in society in some way. In regard to education, poverty, class or even slavery. Creating a belief that has been carried over that you are innately “not good enough.”

Understanding the past life circumstances can help you clear the energy from your field and allow you to step into your confidence, feeling whole and complete in who you are. Therefore, allowing you to experience a better relationship with yourself and others.

6. Repeating The Same Patterns, Dynamics,  Behaviors or Actions 

These are the types of patterns that keep playing out within your relationships or even with a particular person, that tend to be disempowering or unhealthy. 

When your relationship patterns repeatedly result in disappointment, hurt feelings, broken hearts, difficult communication, and damaged self-esteem, pay attention.

These patterns could be showing up as a balancing or opposite pattern to equal out the karma from a past life. Ie being betrayed in this life can balance out a betrayal you did to another in a past life.

Or you might be repeating the way you have previously interacted. You may be repeating these types of patterns and mistakes over and over in many lifetimes because you aren't learning the lessons they hold for you. If you are repeating the same patterns in your relationships and your intent is revenge or guilt then you must find a way to heal this in order to forgive so you can clear the karma and break the pattern.

7. Confusion About a New Relationship

Have you ever met someone and had an instant connection to them that may not align with your normal “type”, - due to gender, age, sexuality etc?  This can be confusing to navigate because of the strong draw towards this person, but you feel a deep attraction to them even when you know you shouldn’t.

Past life causes could be that you were sisters in a previous lifetime, and have carried that love for each other into this life. You recognise the energy of this person, albeit they are in a different body and are confusing familiarity and fond feelings once felt, for something more. 

Exploring a past life connection may help you understand the nature of this relationship as platonic, to encourage you to step out of cultural norms or to not block the potential of this new connection.

8. You Have Negative Emotions or Limiting Beliefs After a Break Up or Loss of a Relationship

If you were mistreated, abused, hurt in a relationship you could be carrying emotional residues of sadness, anger, resentment.

You may also be carrying and experiencing mental residues or limiting beliefs like “relationships aren't worth the pain” or “I'm not good enough” or “relationships aren’t for me” etc

Holding onto these energetic blocks can lead you into continual conflict with your old partner, to have a desire for revenge, infect your new relationships, or block you from ever forming connections, by avoiding relationships altogether.

If you were the one who left the relationship, cheated, lied, abused or mistreated your ex then you may be carrying residues of guilt, regret, shame or anger towards yourself. 

Past life causes could be that you shared multiple past lives where you or the other person keep acting and reacting the same way repeating the same patterns, not learning or growing or moving on. They may have taken many forms, as lovers, family, friends, rivals or colleagues in past lives and replaying the same pattern of betraying and mistreating. 

Or the roles are reversed in this lifetime where in one life you were the one mistreated and in another life you were the one who did the mistreating. 

In these past lives, you may have made a vow to get revenge, give up on love, or to punish yourself and therefore continue the cycle in this life. 

It’s key to get clarity on these blockages, and clear the energy so you can move on with renewed self worth, and open yourself up again to love.

9. You Cling, Obsess or Can’t Let Go 

Do you find it difficult to let someone go who isn't treating you well, after a relationship ends, or after the loss of someone close to you?

This can block you from moving on with your life because you are not learning the lessons to move to the next stage of your evolution.

For example, you may be with someone who cheats on you but you can’t seem to leave them and feel a deep sense of guilt if you were to leave, even though they mistreat you. 

Past life causes could be that you were an older brother in a previous life and they were your younger sister, and you were meant to look after your sister whilst your mother worked. In this life, you were too busy playing with your friend to notice that your sister had wandered off. She ended up dying in a horrible accident, because you weren’t watching them when you were meant to. Due to the guilt you left, you may have made a vow in that life that you will never leave them again and you may have carried that into this lifetime with them. Therefore, making it impossible for you to leave that relationship, even though they mistreat you.

Whilst this may have been done from a good place in your previous incarnation with this soul, this contract or vow no longer serves you and is stopping you from moving forward and releasing this person from your life. 

Gaining this valuable insight into your past lives, and clearing the old outdated contract you once made, can help free you from unhealthy relationships, allow you to let go and move on to happier times. 

10. You Sabotage Your Relationships

Do you sabotage your relationships when they are going well but have no idea why?

For example, you meet someone really nice and everything is going well until it gets too serious, and you shut off emotionally?  

If this is a pattern you have noticed repeating with most of your relationships then the past life causes could be that you were the chief of an army at war and you had to be unemotional and remain strong in order to lead your men and survive. So, in this life when your relationships begin to get too emotional,  you automatically go back into battle mode and shut down (in order to survive.)

Being able to reframe that program from a past life can help set you free from self sabotaging behaviors. Allowing you to build a long lasting and deep connection with someone, instead of cutting them off when things get tough.

Conclusion:

As you can see, your past life experiences can carry over into your present life, causing havoc in your most intimate relationships. 

Experiencing a past life regression can help you to reframe the things that happened, heal any wounds, clear any karma, reprogram your beliefs, rewrite any contracts and learn from the lessons you had previously been learning.

Not only can this heal any emotional, mental, or physical blocks or issues. But it can bring you closure, allow you to become more present, move forward in life with guidance, wisdom and cultivate new healthy relationships.

If you are curious to explore some of your past life connections or relationship blocks, then you can book in for a past life healing or relationship regression session.

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