4 Ways To Tune Into Your Intuition To Avoid Red Flags In Dating

One of the biggest complaints I hear from my clients and friends who are single and dating is that they are fed up with nothing progressing. 

Nowadays it seems with modern day dating, that nobody wants to commit, nobody wants to put in the work to make a relationship last, everyone ghosts, and it seems so easy to jump on to the next at the swipe of a finger. 

Of course for all my high vibrational beauties out there who are seeking a committed and conscious relationship, this instant gratification dating app culture just doesn’t work for you. 

So, how can you start to use your intuition when dating so you don’t get blinded by false words, infatuation, sexual attraction, chemistry or your own projection and avoid the heartache that inevitably comes with it not working out? 

The first thing to do is not get down for another failed dating stage or not being able to get over your ex. We have all been there, believing we had an amazing connection with someone and it turned out they were not on the same page. 

It can be hurtful, disappointing and can make you question your intuition and judgment. 

So, here are 4 ways to tap into your intuition when dating, to ensure you are giving your attention to an aligned partner instead of a sexy serial seducer.

1. Create Deal Breakers or Non Negotiables (and stick to it)

No matter how hot they are, or what good qualities they have, if one of your deal breakers is someone that doesn’t smoke, take drugs or drink and this person does.  Then why are you compromising?

Tune in and ask yourself - with the person that you’re meant to be with really smoke, take drugs or drink alcohol? What does that say about their love for themselves, their bodies and their health, and does that really match your energy? 

By choosing to continue to date, this person will ultimately lower your own vibration, even if you don’t smoke or drink yourself, because energy transfers… especially through DNA. 

You may end up making excuses and believe that you can change them to make them stop, and therefore align with your values. You can never change anyone. People only change when they want to change themselves. Your intuition is being silenced by your attraction.

2. Meet Them As Soon As You Can

I’ve seen this happen all too often, you text for weeks before meeting up and fall into projection or fantasy land. You start to create  a picture of what you want them to be or what they have been showing you via text. 

Don’t be fooled, people are unconsciously master manipulators, especially behind the keyboard and can be anyone they want  you to perceive them to be. 

You invest endless hours in texting and building up anticipation energy. But unless you are tuned into energy and have heightened intuition, then meeting up face to face before you blur the lens with your own thoughts, emotions and fantasies can help discern if they are in fact a match for you. 

3. Pay Attention and Be Present. 

When you’re on a date with someone, try to be as present as possible and pay attention to what they’re saying and what they are doing. It’s so easy to get blindsided with how they look, the chemistry between you both and their words.

But if you look closely enough, you may manage to catch any red flags before you start dreaming about planning the wedding there and then. 

Use your body as a compass and notice if your body contracts or reacts to anything they say that could be a potential red flag. We can only do that when we are truly present and not wandering in the future planning that lavish wedding with them. 

Without fail, they will always end up saying something or doing something that is a red flag if they are misaligned with you. The question is how much are you paying attention?

4. Use Your Heart Compass

Now, whilst all of the above are amazing tips to guide you in the right direction, when dating….. nothing beats using your heart as a compass to tune into their TRUE energy, frequency and vibration. 

Most people don’t know that they have the biggest superpower hidden within them. 

Our heart produces an electromagnetic field that is the same to the earth's resonance and frequency. That’s making it a very powerful tool for energetic discernment.

Once you learn how to connect to your heart, to tune into the subtle vibrations of energy, connect with your own intuition, you won't get seduced by false words and sexual chemistry and end up in a situationship with another sexual energy vampire.

When you master this tools, you won’t even need to waste your time on going on that date, because your heart compass will have already given you all the information you need to tell you, if that person is a vibrational match for you or not. 

Like anything, being able to connect with your own intuition and activate your heart compass takes practice. Especially because most of us are so disconnected from our own hearts, and intuitive abilities. 

I assure you, we are all able to use this spectacular tool to make decisions in every area of our life, not just dating. 

So whilst we may have fallen for someone’s words, or appearance in the past, when we tune in to a HEART COMPASS, we are able to see beyond the mask. 

People can lie, but energy does not! 

Tuning into your own intuition isn’t always easy when dating, but being able to understand, listen and interpret the subtle energies of a person's soul will transform the way you approach your relationships, and your life itself.

If you are interested in learning how to activate your intuition, be in flow with life, know and trust yourself more, understand your how your intuition speaks to you and learning the lessons each of our relationships are here to teach us for our souls growth. Then book a session with me, work with me in one of my transformations coaching programs or join the membership to get tools, healings, readings and teachings on spirituality, energy healing, relationships, past lives and much much more.